Answers to Intriguing Questions

How do I decide if I am doing the right thing?

By what standard do you personally make moral decisions? For example, many people adhere to a particular religion and use it as their moral compass. Others simply do what feels right at the moment.

According to me the right thing is:

- Which is right by moral/ethical standards.
- Which is benefit for me and others as well. I would think in order of priority of being beneficial to me first then others except in the family relationships or someone I love or care for.
- Which is based on truth (core facts) regardless of circumstances.

How do I trust anyone?

What do you believe about people? Are the generally good or generally bad?Do you consider yourself trustworthy? Why or why not? What do you believe is the risk if you trust others? What is the risk if you chose not to trust others?

What do you believe about people? Are the generally good or generally bad?
- I believe that people are generally good. But, I think this needs to change because generally people will think for their benefit, just like me. Sometime, they stoop down to any level to make the things agreeable to them.

Do you consider yourself trustworthy? Why or why not?
- I do consider myself trustworthy because I can keep confidential things to myself only. I do not ditch others. I do the things allocated to me in a proper manner. I know and understand my responsibilities (personal and professional). However, there have been times but less than 1% when I was not trustworthy and suffered the consequences for the same. Now, after understanding the reasons behind that behavior, I am correcting myself in order to remain trustworthy at all times. I know it is difficult but if you choose to do something then it should be 100%. This is what I believe in. Period.

What do you believe is the risk if you trust others? What is the risk if you chose not to trust others?
- If I trust others completely then there are greater chances of me being manipulated by them as this has happened in the past. If I do not trust others then I have to sacrifice my good behavior with them because then i will start asking too many questions and I will end up in managing too much. I think I scared of managing too much but I if I trust others then I can let go various checks and make managing others easier. However, this is not the best way always. May be, I need better answers.

How do I predict human behavior?

Why do you want to predict human behavior? What is the outcome you are looking for? Can you predict your own behavior? What would change in your life if you could predict the behavior of those around you?

Why do you want to predict human behavior? What is the outcome you are looking for?
- I want to predict human behavior so that I can avoid being cheated or manipulated. Some humans are so funny that if there is greater self-benefit then they would go to any level to manipulate other person in order to make that happen. I don’t know know why I attract these kind of beings and end up in being manipulated and loosing just too much time, finances and energy on them.

Can you predict your own behavior?
- It is difficult to say that I can predict my behavior 100%. I might predict 75-80% of my behavior and trying to predict lot more. Since, my actions are the result of my impulses, my thoughts and ultimately my ability to control all of them (comfortably or uncomfortably). Because, I cannot control everything about myself, so I cannot predict 100%. However, I have very clear value based decision making structure which allows to take right/tough/intelligent decisions. Therefore, even if I go wrong, I can correct myself. I understand it might be late sometimes. Now, I understand that I need to take the predictability score to 90-95% because that will give me greater control over my own life
and will make me more successful.

What would change in your life if you could predict the behavior of those around you?
- I would see myself as successful in relationships (specially intimate ones) if I can predict human behavior successfully. Definitely, I would clearly know how much I have to give to the particular relationship and when to retract (if necessary) and when to go ahead. I would make my life and those of others (dealing with me) more comfortable and predictable.

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